by Steve Sunseth | Jun 19, 2026 | Blog
A reflection on Elisha Marr’s “Pronatalism in Adoption Seeking: Characteristics of Contemporary Women in the US” (Adoption Quarterly, 2026) Pronatalism, adoption, and the hidden cost to adoptees. We talk a lot about why people adopt. We talk far less...
by Steve Sunseth | Jun 13, 2026 | Blog
I want to tell you something about adoptee guilt and shame. It’s something that I don’t say lightly; something it took me the better part of four decades to understand. The shame I carried for most of my life wasn’t mine. I borrowed it. I absorbed...
by Steve Sunseth | Jun 5, 2026 | Blog
You’re in the middle of a conversation and suddenly you’re not quite there anymore. You’re watching yourself from a slight distance, going through the motions, saying the right things, but something essential has quietly stepped back from the room....
by Steve Sunseth | Jun 1, 2026 | Blog
When most people think about trauma, they think about flashbacks. Nightmares. Panic attacks triggered by a loud noise. The kind of dramatic, unmistakable symptoms that make it obvious something is wrong. But for many people (maybe most), unprocessed trauma...
by Steve Sunseth | May 23, 2026 | Blog
You didn’t disappear all at once. It happened gradually — a shrinking here, a silencing there. You learned which parts of yourself were welcome and which ones weren’t. You learned that being too loud, too needy, too emotional, too much of anything came...
