Adult Adoptee Therapy in Ontario
A warm, steady space for understanding your story and building self-trust.
Being adopted shapes the way you see yourself, your relationships, and your place in the world — often in ways that are hard to put into words. Many adoptees move through life carrying questions, tensions, or a quiet sense of “not quite belonging,” even when their childhood looked good on the outside.
If you’re an adult adoptee who has struggled with identity, self-worth, relationships, or a complicated inner world, you are not alone — and you don’t have to sort through it on your own.
I offer adult adoptee therapy that understands the adoptee experience at its core. A space where nothing needs to be minimized, explained, or justified. Just a steady, grounded presence walking with you as you reconnect with yourself.
A Note About My Approach to Adult Adoptee Therapy
As an adoptee myself, I understand how adoption can shape identity, relationships, belonging, and the nervous system in ways that are often difficult to express.
Your story is your own — I never assume our experiences are the same — but my personal connection to the adoptee experience helps me approach this work with deep respect, sensitivity, and understanding. You don’t need to educate me about the basics of adoption. You can simply show up as you are.
Why Adoption Can Leave a Lifelong Impact — Even Decades Later
Growing up adopted often means carrying experiences most people never see:
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Feeling “different,” separate, or disconnected
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Struggling with identity or belonging
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Fearing abandonment or rejection, even in safe relationships
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Sabotaging good things because safety feels unfamiliar
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Perfectionism or people-pleasing to stay accepted
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Difficulty expressing needs or trusting others
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A deep sense of being “too much” or “not enough”
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Grief or anger you were never allowed to talk about
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Shame for wanting answers about your origin story
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A lifetime of searching for where you fit
These are not character flaws — they’re understandable responses to early loss, uncertainty, and the invisible emotional work of navigating two families, two identities, and a story that wasn’t always fully yours.
Therapy can help you understand these patterns with compassion rather than self-judgment.
What Adult Adoptee Therapy Can Help With
In our work together, we gently explore the parts of your story that have felt confusing, overwhelming, or unfinished. Common areas of focus include:
Identity & Belonging
Understanding who you are beyond expectations, roles, or survival strategies.
Relationship Patterns
Making sense of attachment wounds — pulling close, pushing away, or fearing both.
Self-Worth
Untangling the belief that you need to earn love, safety, or acceptance.
Adoption Grief
Allowing space for the sadness, anger, questions, and losses that were never validated.
Search and Reunion
Navigating the emotional complexity of finding — or choosing not to find — birth family.
Anxiety & Emotional Regulation
Learning to stay steady inside yourself without shutting down or becoming overwhelmed.
Building Self-Trust
Developing confidence in your emotions, boundaries, and decisions.
What a Session With Me Is Like
I’m not here to judge, interpret, or pathologize you.
I’m here to provide:
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A calm, steady presence
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A safe emotional space where you don’t have to protect anyone else’s feelings
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A therapist who deeply understands the adoptee experience
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A pace that feels manageable — never rushed
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A place where your story is respected, not explained away
People often say they finally feel understood, not “studied,” and that they don’t have to justify the complexity of adoption.
My Approach
My work is grounded in:
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Trauma-informed, attachment-based therapy
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A gentle, relational style
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Deep respect for the adoptee lived experience
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Honouring the parts of your story you’ve carried alone
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Helping you build a more grounded, calm, confident sense of self
You don’t have to perform, convince, or hide anything here.
You get to be fully seen.
Questions? Feel free to send us a message on our Contact page
Is Adoption Therapy Right for You?
This work is a good fit if you:
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Often feel like an outsider, even in close relationships
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Struggle with trust, self-worth, or feeling “enough”
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Carry anger, grief, or confusion about your story
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Have a hard time staying in one place, one job, or one relationship
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Want to understand your patterns without shame
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Want adult adoptee therapy from someone who “gets” adoptee issues without you having to educate them
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Are ready to build more calm, connection, and self-trust
Whether your adoption was closed, open, kinship, or international — your experience is valid.
Virtual Therapy Across Ontario (and In-Person in London)
You can access adult adoptee therapy therapy from anywhere in Ontario through secure virtual sessions, or meet in person in London if that feels more comfortable.
Virtual therapy is a great option if you want:
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Privacy
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Flexibility
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Consistency
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A therapist who truly understands adoptee issues, even if you’re in a smaller community
Wherever you are, you don’t have to do this alone.
Book a Free Intro Call
I offer a short consultation to help you get a sense of what working together feels like — steady, calm, and without pressure.
You deserve a space where your story finally makes sense.
If you’re ready to explore adult adoptee therapy, I’m here.